hello.
i’ve inadvertently used writing for a long time to process things.
i want to use this platform to share some things i’ve scribbled down, with the hope somebody may feel the same things.
i’m not a writer, or a poet. it’s just therapy.
hello.
i’ve inadvertently used writing for a long time to process things.
i want to use this platform to share some things i’ve scribbled down, with the hope somebody may feel the same things.
i’m not a writer, or a poet. it’s just therapy.
step by step
we match each other’s stride
there will be no chasing here
i’ve done all my running
and my legs are tired
i collapsed into your arms
your bed
your heart
and you let me
you held me
when i fell apart
there’s never been a “will they won’t they?”
it’s always been a “yes”
no mirrors or smoke
or jumping through hoops
just
my safety net
in the storms of all my heartbreaks
in my cloudy sky
you’re blue
it’s not what i was running from
but you
i was running to.
i chased you
in a toxic bid to feel better
i chased you
but to you
i was just an escape route
a getaway driver
a one way ticket
when i had counted on a return journey
and that’s how you left me
once you’d got what you needed
where you wanted
in those muggy streets
that, oh, should’ve been mine
alone
you rode my high
let my waves carry you
further than you’d ever been
don’t chase after things you don’t need
in hopes you’ll feel something you don’t want to feel
because i guarantee you
you will.
if we were trees
we’d grow in each other’s arms
we’d be each other’s shade
and we’d be each other’s shelter
if we were trees
our roots would be intertwined
and if you got sick
i’d send you the right chemicals to make you better
and if i broke a branch
you’d mend me
but most importantly
if we were trees
we’d have longer than the never promise, but always hopeful, 60 years together
we’d grow side by side for lifetimes
thousands of years
and when our time was up
we’d fall back to the earth that tended us
tended each other
and we’d begin all over again
as seeds
if we were trees.
“I’m coming home”
Tears draining bloodshot eyes
Plane tickets
And a pandemic
Picked up from the airport
And sleeping in the back seat
Long hugs
And “I’m glad you’re back”
Dad’s coffee
And your teenage bedroom
The North Sea
And 4pm sunsets
Clean breaks
With soft landings
Oh how sweet it is
To be caught.
I have OCD. I do not wash my hands religiously after using the bathroom. But I do live with a constant feeling of impending doom, like a black cloud is following me wherever I go.
I have OCD. I don’t keep my flat especially tidy, and I’ve never cared for dusting. But I do frequently and vividly picture my family’s deaths to the point of tears.
I have OCD. I don’t turn the lights on again and off again. But I do count almost every action I take, and make sure it’s in 3s, 4s or 7s.
I have OCD. I can drink out of glasses at any restaurant without a second thought. But I question my sexuality almost constantly, to check I haven’t been lying to myself and everyone I love.
I have OCD.
And I do over-use alcohol hand gel. And I do line my shoes up in a funny way else something terrible will happen. And I avoid new car journeys for fear of causing a crash and hurting or killing the people I love. And I do actually knock on wood. And I salute to every magpie I see. And I do neutralize “bad” thoughts or words with “good” ones.
The “ands” and “buts” can also be true at the same time.
We are walking contradictions.
We are stereotypical and we are opposites.
We both are and are not.
And all those experiences are valid.
But it’s okay.
“Wow, have you lost weight?”
Not –
“Tell me about your family, are they well?”
“What about a childhood dream you had, did it ever come true?”
“What has brought you joy recently, and how can you look for that joy in unexpected places?”
“Are you a beach or a mountain person?”
“What scares you more – space or the deep sea?”
“In what ways do you think you’ve grown up, and it what ways haven’t you?”
“Do you believe in ‘the one’?”
“How are you, really?”
“What book has made you cry recently?”
“What is your best piece of life advice you’ve ever received?”
“Do you ever feel moved by art?”
“When was the last time you paddled in the sea?”
“Do you believe in ghosts?”
“Are tarot cards a load of nonsense?”
“What’s one thing you’re scared to do, but you know would be good for you?”
Anything but that.
She visited on a Sunday.
She went in, “Hello, it’s me here.”
But he barely opened his eyes.
Until he did.
And he asked for the time.
She was going to leave, but the nurses urged her to stay.
To talk to him.
So, of course, she did.
For ten minutes, whilst he slept.
The previous visit she’d taken him an old photo to look at.
There was a poem on the back.
She said it was about ships going out to sea.
She said it sounded like dying.
He’d asked her to put the photo at the end of the bed for him to see.
Sleep tight.
I imagine they first properly met at the rugby club.
Dad would have just finished a game.
Mum would be behind the bar pulling pints.
They would have just smiled at each other and started a conversation.
Nothing complicated.
Straight forward, and easy.
Mum would have shone a brilliant smile.
Dad would have said something witty.
The smell of lager, and muddy rugby boots and stale smoke on old jackets.
She doesn’t even know what she wants.
She keeps changing tack.
Whatever she says she’s angry about, it sounds likes there’s something much bigger that she’s not saying.
Hang on.
I don’t think she’s angry at this person at all.
Listen, carefully.
Can you hear that?
I think she’s actually angry with herself.
She sounds exhausted.
Why is it always Mister Men and Little Miss?
Why little?
You
misled me, made me little miss
misery. I was
misguided and
mistook my
misfortune for good luck.
I was
miserable, under your tyranny of poorly disguised
misogyny.
I
misread the signs, and had the
misfortune to
misunderstand your indifference for love countless times.
And yet, your biggest
mistake, was to
misunderestimate
me?
Little Miss?