Do we want reality, or fantasy? Let’s go for fantasy first:
Him: Hi [insert name], I’m so sorry for everything I’ve done. And I’m sorry for cutting all contact with you. That wasn’t fair.
Me: That’s ok.
Him: Well, I’ve just had a realisation. I didn’t know what a terrible, terrible affect my actions had on you. It was never intentional, but I know that doesn’t make it any better. You deserved to be treated better than that. I should have been honest with you.
Me: I really appreciate you calling. It’s not an easy thing to do. I’m sorry too – I know I could be difficult at times.
Him: No, you have nothing to apologize for. You behaved the way you did because of my actions. I hope that you can find a way to get over all of this.
Me: I have had to have lots of counselling, but I’m slowly getting there.
Him: I really hope you can overcome what I did, and I’m so sorry, again.
Him: I don’t know what you want me to apologize for. You were the one that overreacted. Do you not understand how awful you made me feel about it all? I can’t help the way you reacted.
Me: Ok, I’m sorry.